It's Time To Learn Why Home Schooling Is Leading You To An F In Marriage
Post-2020, around 2.5 million American children were homeschooled, with an average growth rate between 2-8% each year. While those are pretty high stats compared to many countries, it’s fair to say that homeschooling parents were in the minority. But, all of that is changing.
Whether through enforced school closures or for safety reasons, countless parents have recently taken the homeschooling plunge. In some ways, this is good news. Notably, homeschooling parents have long enjoyed benefits including -
Child-led learning
Warm lesson environments
More meaningful lessons
And more
For some parents, though, the speed with which homeschooling has become necessary has come as a shock to the system. And, where marriage is concerned, that’s not necessarily a good thing. This is bad news in an age where stress and lifestyle changes are already driving many couples to seek family law counsel. What’s more, families need to show a united front to make homeschooling work. The question is, why is this teaching method making you fail at marriage, and what can you do to change that?
Too many cooks in the classroom
If your partner and you are both trying to take control, it’s no wonder you’re locking horns right now. After all, you both likely have different ideas about what good teaching looks like, even if those differences are subtle. The best thing here would be to hand over control, at least to some extent. It may be that you decide one parent would be best taking full control of classes, or you may prefer to split lessons. Either way, this will provide you with the distance you need to make a go of teaching while keeping the peace.
A one-track lesson plan
Coming up with creative ways to keep your kids learning can be tough, and it could become all consuming. This, mixed with the whole unbalanced home/work thing, could lead you to talk shop all night long. You don’t need us to tell you that this will soon see you struggling to keep the spark alive. Instead, make an effort to keep office hours as much as you can. By putting all schooling thoughts aside by the time the kids are in bed, you can ensure that you don’t bore each other, or yourselves, to death!
No time just the two of you
Along roughly the same lines, homeschooling can cause a significant lack of alone time. After all, the kids will be around all day long and, as mentioned, school could even take up evenings. The solution here is obvious, and it lies in making sure that you carve out time together, even when that seems impossible. This is always important, but especially if you’re taking on such a big task. Get a family member round to watch the kids in the evening, or just have a romantic meal once the kids are in bed. Something as simple as a date night once a month is guaranteed to see your romance soaring, and your marriage getting an A at last.