Managing A Breakup When You Have Kids

Ideally, you and your partner would always get along and would be able to raise your little one together. But, often, there are situations where couples are simply incompatible and the relationship logically needs to come to an end. Now, breakups are rarely pleasant. They can involve a whole host of emotions, ranging from upset to hurt, jealousy, anger and more. While this isn’t ideal, it's generally manageable if you only have yourself to worry about. If you and your partner have children, however, things can quickly become pretty complicated. You and your partner need to determine what’s best for the kids and how the break up can be managed in a way that doesn’t negatively impact them. The little ones need to come first and need to be put above any negative emotions you may be holding against one another. Here are just a few things you can do to make breaking up when children are involved a little easier and less complicated.

Remain Civil

Unless there are elements to your break up that show that your partner is unfit to be around your children, you need to remain civil throughout the entire process. Put your own feelings to the side and ask yourself what is genuinely best for them in terms of managing their time between you and your partner. Coming to a conclusion with issues like this will require a conversation and open communication between you and your partner, so you’re going to have to make sure that you can hold a conversation without shouting, slandering or bringing other negative behaviour into it. You also want to set a good example to your children, encouraging them to be civil with those they may not get on with. You don’t want your kids to find themselves in a hostile environment at any time.

Seek Legal Support

If you and your partner simply can’t see eye to eye with any issues revolving around the breakup, you may need to seek legal support. This will ensure that everything is fair in the process. You can find legal support through family law attorneys, who are specialists in the field.

Seek Support

Breakups are emotionally draining processes and you may find that you need support throughout yours. The good news is that there is plenty of support out there. Whether that’s family, friends, support groups, helplines or anything else. Just know that you’re not alone in this and people are ready to help you as and when you need.

Hopefully, things are going well and you don’t need to use any of this advice. But many of us do find ourselves in situations where we do need to breakup, but still need to make sure that everything is as positive and healthy for our kids as possible. If you ever find yourself in this situation, some of the above information could really help you out! So, keep it in the back of your mind.