Helping Your Parents Transition Into The Next Stages Of Ageing

The greatest responsibility that many people will face in their lifetime will be supporting their ageing parents. As people age, the ability to physically move around, remember things and perform daily tasks may decrease; however, ageing can also create opportunities for meaningful connections, new experiences and new patterns of living. The difference is how you approach these transitions.

Have the Conversation Earlier Than Later

A very common problem in families that support elderly parents is figuring out when to discuss the topic. A better way to go into this conversation is to ask your parents, in an open-ended, non-judgmental manner, "How are you doing today? Do you find that anything has gotten harder for you to do? Have you ever considered what the future holds?" These types of inquiries don't necessarily indicate that you want to assume control over your parents' lives, but rather that you want to create a safe space for them to feel seen and supported.

When you open the door to having this conversation early on, you give your parents time to think about their priorities, interests and desires. Additionally, you gain insight into what really matters to them, such as maintaining independence, being close to their family members, and continuing some of the activities and routines that were important to them before.

Re-define What Independence Means

Just because your parents are ageing, it does not mean that they cannot continue to live independently. Ageing can simply require them to adapt to different ways of accomplishing those things. There are many technologies available today that can help seniors maintain their independence. For example, smart home technology can provide reminders to take medications, and/or allow for social connections via video calls.

Both you and your parents should rethink how you view receiving support. Receiving support is not a loss of dignity, but can actually give your parents the freedom to eliminate the burden of some of their responsibilities and allow them to use their energy for the things that bring them happiness.

Create Their Living Space for Comfort

Even small physical adaptations can have a large impact. Consider using lighting that is gentle on the eyes, furniture that makes it easy to get up from and kitchen designs that make it easy to access essentials. All of these design elements can be incorporated into a beautiful space that is functional.

As your parents' needs evolve, so too should the physical environment of their living space. If mobility issues arise, consider installing a stairlift, a walk-in shower, or even exploring single-story living options. Involve your parents in every decision regarding modifications to their living space so that they still feel like they are in their own space.

Know When to Get Help

At times, even with all of the effort put forth, your parents will need a bit more support than others. Home care can fill that gap, providing daily assistance and/or companionship. One of the beauties of home care is its flexibility. Tailored plans can focus on the exact areas where your parents need the most support, while keeping them in their own living spaces.

There is no shame in seeking the help of professionals. In reality, incorporating professional caregivers into your parents' care can foster stronger family relationships and allow your family to spend quality time together, rather than always being focused on providing care.

Enjoy This Stage of Life

While there are certainly losses associated with ageing, it is not a complete decline. Ageing represents a transition. It presents opportunities for growth, wisdom, slower conversations and the ability to be present in the moment in ways that modern life can often prevent. Your role is to walk alongside your parents through this stage of life, not to save them from it.

Help your parents discover ways to live full lives, not just extended ones. That is the greatest gift that you can give them.