Divorce is hard on everyone involved, but often the most emotional stress and uncertainty fall on us moms. The good news is there are strategies you can use to make sure that you not only survive the trials of divorce but ensure you thrive in your new life too. Read on to find out what they are.

Set and stick to boundaries

One of the most important things that will help you to survive a divorce as a mom is that you don't have to stick with the old way of doing things when it comes to interacting with your ex. Instead, it's possible to set boundaries for the way that they speak to you, how they contact you, and how you expect them to behave around your children as well.

For example, you may state that unless it's an emergency that concerns your children, you would prefer that your ex email you rather than text. You may also like to add that you won’t be responding immediately to any emails, which will give you more time to consider what is being asked /suggested and whether this fits in with your plans and values.

Of course, it's very likely that you will receive some pushback from your ex over this, especially if they have established long-standing negative habits. However, because of the physical and emotional distance that going through a divorce offers, by being consistent, you can effectively change the dynamic to one that is fairer and suits your needs going forward, as well as theirs.

Seek support from others

Divorce can certainly seem like a lonely business, but it doesn't have to be. Indeed, there are many people out there, both professional and otherwise that can offer you support during this trying time.

One such set of people are qualified divorce counselors, who can help you process your emotions and navigate the challenges of co-parenting with your ex. Support groups for divorced moms can also be an excellent resource both for valuable information and emotional backup and many moms make lifelong friends due to their shared experiences.

Lastly, you will want to work with a skilled and compassionate divorce lawyer to ensure that the needs of your children are prioritized during the divorce. Indeed, by choosing legal help that is not only accomplished but understands the very human side of divorce you can make the whole process a great deal easier on yourself emotionally.

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Get your finances in order

Money matters when it comes to divorce because you will need to ensure you get a fair deal for you and the kids to live on. With that in mind, there are several things you need to make sure that you do.

The first is to not waive your rights to financial help from your spouse, just to get the divorce go through more quickly. Yes, I know that for many of us all we want is to be free of our ex and move on, but your children have a right to be provided for and you need to take the time to fight for this.

Secondly, it's very important that you get your own finances in order. This includes knowing how much money and assets you have as individuals as well as a couple/family including the value of your home and any other properties. Additionally, keeping records that show just how much money you spend per month on your mortgage, bills, fuel, food, clothes and other expenses for the kids is vital as this is the figure you will need to fight for when it comes time for your day in court.

Take some time to be single

Last, of all, it can be very tempting to jump back into a serious long term relationship right after a divorce, especially if you meet someone that you click well with as soon as you start dating. However, it's often much more useful to spend some time being single.

The reason for this is that it allows us the time to truly get to know ourselves outside of a relationship, including who we are and what we want. After all, moms tend to not only sacrifice for their kid's well-being but take care of their partners in many ways as well. Therefore without this burden, there is time to connect with our own unique identities and revisit what it is we truly want out of life, something that is essential if we are to have a successful and fulfilling relationship moving forward.

A Moms' Guide To Surviving Divorce